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5 REASONS YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS ARE NOT RESOLVING

 

So 2018 ended and you had your fun moments and sad ones, you learnt your lessons and you had areas you like to work on. You made those so called “New Year Resolutions” to help you get things right in 2019. Well good for you at least you finally identified your weak spots and would like to work on them. You created some goals you would like to achieve or habits you would like to break etc, before the end of 2019. But for some reasons, it’s the middle of the year and things have not be working out. The so called New Year Resolutions have not been resolving and its almost as though you are getting worse in some cases.

Let’s take a pause a minute, what actually was the difference between 2018 and 2019?  For some of you this is not your first time of setting New Year resolutions and you often barely keep it till the end of January. Well this is meant to help you avoid your journey of New Year resolution failures. Also if this is your first time of making a New Year resolution, you are lucky to find this article as you be able to avoid certain pitfalls associated with setting resolutions. As I am sure you are seriously struggling to keep up.

 

What Exactly Is A New Year Resolution?

For short its just a list of goals or habit you wish to achieve or correct or possibly inculcate in a new year. According to Cambridge Dictionary, a New Year Resolution is a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year. This exactly is where the who confusion starts “first day of the year”. Well let’s now see below the 5 Reasons your New Year resolutions are not resolving and how to go about it.

  1. You’ve Got It All Wrong From The Start

Oh yes I said it, you got it all wrong from the start. The fact that you waited for the date on the calendar to change from 2018 to 2019 before you started achieving your goals was your first mistake. In some cases this is one of the main reasons most people don’t follow a resolution till the end. The habit of waiting till Monday or waiting for a new month is never helpful in any way. Often it’s just your body looking for excuses not to start at that moment where your mind has made a decision. Most people are often found of saying let me wait by Monday or by next month i will start doing this or I will stop doing that. When this occurs it’s always the first sign you won’t achieve your said resolution. The best time to always start is now, not later but now. Having this in mind will always go a long way in helping you gain full control over your set resolutions. If you can’t start December 31st I doubt you will be able to start 1st January. It gets worse for some people once they are not able to start on 1st January, they push till the second week and so on. Before you know it the loose hope and give up on the whole thing.  So why wait till next week or next year January when you can start now.

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  1. You Call It New Year Resolution

Are you really kidding me “New year resolution”, don’t mind me I did the same too. We are all entitled to our own opinions, but for me there is no such thing as a New Year resolution. I doubt if a new year even exist. But before you start wondering what is this one saying, let’s look at things from this stand point. Any day can be a new year for anybody, but in general it’s just a global mind set. The Vatican can decide to change Christmas to January 15 for example and it will stand as that. So I ask you why wait for a system to tell you it’s a new date before you start working on yourself? That 2 days extra you will waste waiting for January 1 is a 48 hours you will never get back. Each human exist in his or her own universe which is totally in their control. Why not take advantage of this and start giving your life your own meaning immediately, you get the feel too right? It’s said always listen to yourself, you should be making plans for your life not for a new year.

You have to change your thinking and make it about you and not the coming year or the remaining half of 2019. Know where you want to be at a certain period of time not where the year has to be at a certain period before you start working on your resolutions. Remember time lost can’t be bought back.

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  1. You Are Biting More Than You Can Chew

The phrase “you are biting more than you can chew” sounds as a cliché but it still does not change its meaning. Most often people tend to set goals which even deep within them they know it’s not achievable. Someone will write a very long list of things they plan to do in one year, are you a magician or a celestial being? I use to be in this category of people and it has never been favorable. Writing a list is allowed but how realistic do you think the contents of that list are? Deep within us as humans we know our true weakness and strengths, we also know our actual capabilities and limits. So why say you will start waking up 4:30 am when you know you only actually wake after 7:30 am. Writing a personal resolution has to be done with utmost sincerity if you want it to work or resolve. I will advice you do an actual SWOT analysis on yourself before you start setting goals or making a resolution.

In fact it’s not just about setting goals but they have to be SMART goals. This simply means your goals have to be

S-        Specific,

M-       Measurable,

A-        Action-oriented,

 R-       Result-oriented and

T-        Time-bounded

Being truthful to yourself is key, as it increases your chances of being able to stick to your new resolutions. You will feel more satisfied and accomplished if you set your alarm for 7:00 am to wake up against your initial 7:30 am. Setting an alarm for 4:30am and waking up at 7:30am will only kill your morale easily. So I say bite less, chew a little and increase as you progress.

magic process

  1. Its Not A Magical Process

My dear we are on planet earth not Wonder Land, things just don’t happen overnight. These things take time especially when it has to do with inculcating a new habit, braking an old one or maintaining a new routine. According to Blackmores.com.au It takes an average of 66 days to adopt a new habit and an average of 21 days to drop an old one. It can be even more depending on the person and the habit in question. So you see my dear, It Just does not work like that, you have to be determined and focused if you really want your resolutions to resolve. Everything in life has its own process it’s not by making a resolution alone, you have to put in work. As the saying goes if it was easy everybody would be doing it. Trust me when I say you are not the only one struggling with this, just maintain a positive mind set.

 

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Give yourself time to adjust, you can’t control everything. Possibly reward yourself a little when you achieve a goal or reach a mile stone, in this way you will keep a high spirit all through. Play your part and let the universe handle the rest. As long as you are persistent and consistent, everything will fall into place at the right time.

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  1. Giving Up Too Easy

So you have made this wonderful resolutions to guide you as you journey through 2019, well that’s great. Am actually happy for you but will you see it through to the end? Most often New Year resolutions as we have seen, turn into list of things we want to do but know we won’t be able to do. You know am right, research too has shown that barely 10% of people actually see a resolution through to the end. Most people fail because they give up too easy. Some people give up once it doesn’t work in January consoling their laziness with an anticipation they will try again by the next New Year.

For example you make a resolution to stop smoking from First of January, and you make it through the first day. On second January you have mistakenly forgotten your resolution and started smoking only to recall half way in to the pack of cigarettes. Now what do you actually do? Do you just give up and continue smoking and say you will try again the coming week? With a habit of giving up easily you will only end up giving yourself flamezy excuses to make you even just smoke more. These mistakes are often bound to happen but the trick here is simple.

SO WHAT AM I SAYING

Instead of being hard on yourself and giving up easily, there are certain ways you can go about it. Now you are half way into your cigarette pack, instead of just saying let me just finish this one today and give it a shot tomorrow, just turn off the lighted stick and toss it and the rest of the pack away. Possibly leave that location or entire environment and get something else doing. Better still instead of saying i want to stop drinking this year why not say I will reduce my consumption rate this year. Lets say from 5 to 3 bottles per day for a start based on your capabilities. You will see in the long run it will be easier for you to stop totally than fixing what you can’t maintain.

 

CONCLUSION

I don’t know where you are with your resolutions so far in 2019 or where your weakness lies. I don’t know what habit you are struggling to break make. But always remember to be honest with yourself in setting goals and know it’s all a gradual process.

 

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